Posts by l p
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67Mental health crisis in America-
by moshe ini found this mother's letter to be an eye opener--.
written by liza long, republished from the blue review.
friday's horrific national tragedy -- the murder of 20 children and six adults at sandy hook elementary school in newtown, connecticut -- has ignited a new discussion on violence in america.
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Need Some Tough Love & Help
by Simon Morley innot sure how to approach this but here goes.....my wife discovered a porn site on the computer tonight.
yes, i was going to them, and i was foolish to think i could never get caught.
i have been visiting them for some years, not a daily problems, but occasionaly every month or so - still a problem wethere its once or a hundred times.
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fakesmile: apology accepted ( im not one to take offense and keep the gate!! - poor attempt at turning this into some humor.... i really appreciate your genuine response...i dont keep hold of being offended or anything)...
um i get where you are coming from......dont get me wrong....im not....let me resay NOT saying porn is wrong... I can't claim to know a lot about men....however I have gathered that men do tend to be more visually stimulated.... nothing wrong with that at all.....
but on the other hand you do need to accept that porn CAN have a damaging effect on the partner in the relationship (whoever and whatever sex that be) bec it can degrade the person....
having just said that....im sure it wouldnt bother some people either....the key that i am stressing is being sensitive to the others needs or feelings......
thats not just for porn thats for anything in life....
and no i am very pro PEOPLES RIGHTS...that includes men as well.......
so I dont ever desire to dictate to another human being...i believe personally you should accept someone for who they are....if you aren't compatible that is fine...you move on until you find your compatible partner....
and please re read my initial comments to Simon....Please see that my approach was firstly trying to be very nurturing of him too as well as his wife....Im not nasty, cold or insensitive....or judgemental...
and really "getting with the times" .....after thousands and millions of years as humans we have evolved or developed...and we are developing into a human society of one that should be developing 'emotional intelligence'....this means being aware of our actions and the effects this has on other around us...
over the years society has moved away from degrading anyone based on sexuality and these things have been enacted in law....so if this is the standard or the 'gold standard' as it were say in the workplace...why shouldn't that be so in the home.....
basic human rights is that no one should be degraded sexually or in any other way....the way is forward and not being aware of the effects of our actions is something for the past...
Lp
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Need Some Tough Love & Help
by Simon Morley innot sure how to approach this but here goes.....my wife discovered a porn site on the computer tonight.
yes, i was going to them, and i was foolish to think i could never get caught.
i have been visiting them for some years, not a daily problems, but occasionaly every month or so - still a problem wethere its once or a hundred times.
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l p
fakesmile I object to your comments...Ive said you are ignorant of the situation. I have admitted I do not know all about this topic and especially why men or even women like it...Im not saying it is wrong....however you are completely ignorant in your comments...I have not had personal attacks against you except that your comments are ignorant....
they are ignorant how: you blamed Simon's wife for his viewing porn.....you cannot support this as you know absolutely nothing (as I do) of their private life...
secondly I said it is a form of abuse to women or men if it is not a part of consentual relationship with defined boundaries...which it completely is.....and i have given an example to you to support this and broaden your knowlege on the matter as you probably have NO experience with relationship violence...and demonstrated that it does not mean that the other partner has been refusing their spouse...
so my comments are based in fact
however you are the one with the personal attacks saying that: if you cant accept your mans turn ons than you might have a better time with te females
you are completely offensive..... and have absolutely no empathetic feeling
consider this...if porn was not damaging then it would not be considered as a part of sexual harrassment/ discrimination to have it in the work place (this is because it is degrading to people depending on their form of sexuality...i mean by this now a days i guess a gay man could take offense at seeing a woman...a straight woman could take offense at seeing another woman...a straight man could take offense at seeing a man...it all depends on how people feel)
Its about being kind, considerate and feeling....which obvioulsy you dont as evidenced by your comments to me
I expect a public apology
Lp
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Need Some Tough Love & Help
by Simon Morley innot sure how to approach this but here goes.....my wife discovered a porn site on the computer tonight.
yes, i was going to them, and i was foolish to think i could never get caught.
i have been visiting them for some years, not a daily problems, but occasionaly every month or so - still a problem wethere its once or a hundred times.
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l p
fakesmile: you are completely ignorant. The fact that someone turns to porn has got nothing to do with someone has sex or not. It is not an issue of not getting sex...Masturbation can be done without porn...however porn is something that turns some people on.....im not one to comment on how it makes Simon feel...only he can say that....
and to support refuting your ignorant and offensive comment is I never denied my ex partner....in fact he would ALWAYS deny me....I went into that relationship with what I thought was a healthy sex drive,...i would have been happy with sex at least once per day,...some days probably twice....however over time he abused me in every way emotionally, psychologically, financially, sexually, physically.....as per the experts it was "extreme" domestic violence...so with due respect you are not coming from a position of strength.......
some people are just turned on by porn....im not saying its abnormal thats not for me to say....some women like porn and like to watch it with their partner.....as i said it needs to be in a consentual relationship so that no one gets hurt
Lp
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Need Some Tough Love & Help
by Simon Morley innot sure how to approach this but here goes.....my wife discovered a porn site on the computer tonight.
yes, i was going to them, and i was foolish to think i could never get caught.
i have been visiting them for some years, not a daily problems, but occasionaly every month or so - still a problem wethere its once or a hundred times.
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l p
Simon,
Im not going to put up some advice saying ive got experience..Im very inexperienced when it comes to things like this. Im a female. My ex partner was a detective. the relationship was violent, he cheated on me multiple times, i got an STI from him...and he use to look at porn.....it was something that was a contributing factor that helped destroy me as a WOMAN!! if you get my drift...
it can do damage to a woman....ive had a heap of domestic violence and sexual assault counselling and it IS a form of abuse.....
fakesmile you are completely wrong and out of line to say that his wife is 'not doing her job'
sexual encounters within a relationship must be agreed upon and consentual.....
however - now that i have said this...try not to let the disappointment destroy you over it....treat it like you've gone to the doctor and he has told you you have an illness...after the initial shock and grief.....you move into the stage where you try to manage your illness or get it treated..... im NOT saying this is an illness...just an example....
my only bit of advice is to go and seek some counselling....in regards the relationship.....earning back trust...dealing with your wifes issues that she feels betrayed...you should seek this on your own...and also as couple counselling...this will hopefull show your wife that you are serious about listening to her, acknowledging how you have hurt her, and apologising and how you really want to earn her trust cos you love her BLAH BLAH BLAH....you get my drift.....
and i cant comment on the porn bit bec i know not much about it...just that there are varying degrees of porn....
so im sorry i cant help you in anyother way - but the advice i have given i know is the best bit of advice you can recieve...
LP
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Mental health crisis in America-
by moshe ini found this mother's letter to be an eye opener--.
written by liza long, republished from the blue review.
friday's horrific national tragedy -- the murder of 20 children and six adults at sandy hook elementary school in newtown, connecticut -- has ignited a new discussion on violence in america.
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l p
As the original post said from mum Mrs Long, that her son had been on all sorts of antipsychotics but they dont seem to work......schitzophrenia is often resistant to antipsychotics...in fact a pshychiatrist may consider this in deciphering whether someones psychosis is of a schitzophrenic origin.
Easy for me to say but she needs to not give up. The child should stay under the care of mental health professionals and really should be admitted assessment and treatment.
And for that fact any child that is having a melt down ( on an extended background of melt downs, depression, suicidal, identified mental health issues) should be hospitalised particularly if suicidal. For a parent to refuse to allow this is putting the child at risk and in Australia Community Services are to be notified that the child is "at risk of harm due to medical neglect". Being a healthcare worker i support this as if there is a risk that the child/young person could hurt themselves or another person they need to be admitted and treatment sorted out.
Lp
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Jam: you say that Tater-T has stated misleading information.
Where is your evidence to support this?
Lp
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Timeline - last 2000+ years - Please share what has God done?
by dreamgolfer inin light of the shooting yesterday the question needs to be asked (maybe rhetorically).
what has god done to show he cares about mankind?
please dont be snippy, just be nice.. hey we deserve better dont we?.
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Zippo
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he who lives by the sword dies by the sword........
not sure if that relates
Lp
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New Here
by confusedteenager inhey,.
i've been lurking on this website for a few years now and finally made an account.
i have serious doubts about the organization in general and still have not made up my mind about what to believe.
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l p
Yes I agree with the posters here.... you dont have to be a pioneer or even go regularly to be a jw or keep your family...
I stopped pioneering when I was 19 to go to college to do nursing...i knew i didn't want to be a jw but didnt have any way or plan of getting out...however a year later i tried to stop going...it didnt work but 2 1/2 years later i successfully stopped going and my mother and sister stopped too.....
my nursing career has grown and now im a senior nurse and am going to start another degree next year.....
so my advice is like the others....start investing in your own education to get a career - so you can support yourself.....
if you are depressed - go see a doctor and get treatment/support (you may have to see a psychiatrist, no shame in that...I do and he told me that he treats heaps and heaps of Jws... so there are obviously alot of unhappy people in the org...so go and get yourself support)
then the next step would be to get some more support through another organisation - im in Australia and we have Womens centres which deal alot with domestic/family violence.....dont rule this out....family 'outing or shunning' another is considered domestic or family violence....so you could go and start the counselling process there as they understand women and will know all the resources that will be available to you when you want to make a move and leave or if it all turns to shit sooner than you planned...they can help and support you practically and emotionally....
you can always message me too
Lp xx